All these years later, I still vividly remember heading off to Coker College (now Coker University) in Hartsville, SC. I felt a mix of so many emotions from excited to a little afraid of what lies ahead as I ventured out on my own. At the time, the thought of sending my own child off to college seemed unlikely or lightyears away. Yet, here I am today with a high school senior making plans to attend college. 

As a parent, I’ve found there seem to be a lot of resources and articles about preparing your teen for this big step. However, there doesn’t seem to be a lot about preparing yourself – as their parent – for the new adventure on which they are embarking. So, I thought I’d put a little something together for those parents like myself in this new territory. 

Four Things to Do Before Sending Your Teen Off to College

Below is a quick list of things to consider doing that’s a little outside of the box in preparing to send your teen off to college. 

Embrace Your Quality Time

Set aside some time for one-on-one “dates” with your child. They can be as simple as watching a movie together or more in-depth like taking a day trip. Most importantly, soak up, enjoy and live in each moment during this quality time. You’ll be so glad you did once they are off on their own. 

Take Time to Reflect

Instead of wallowing in the sad thoughts of “losing” your child, think about all the future holds for them. Reflect on everything you’ve been through together to get to this point. Be proud of those moments and the many moments to come in this new path they are about to step foot onto. 

Give Meaningful Advice

Alright, so most teenagers don’t want to hear advice from their parents, but one day, they will be glad you took the time to give them some before heading off on their own. If you went to college, think about all the things you wish you knew before you went. Those are likely great pieces of advice. If you didn’t go to college, offer words of wisdom on handling themselves once they are on their own. This advice will not only help your child, but providing it will give you a little peace of mind, as well. 

Start Journaling

You don’t need to be a writer to put your feelings, fears or thoughts down on paper. It doesn’t need to be a novel or literary work. Use it as a way to express yourself and get out all of those thoughts on how you feel about this big change because it’s not just one for your child, but you as well.

Be sure to enjoy these final days with your teens before they embark on their college journeys. While it’s their success, don’t forget you helped get them there and are a huge part in shaping who they are today. Let them know how proud you are of them as well as the confidence you have in them. Finally, give all the hugs they will let you give!